Description:
We REALLY Need to Talk: A Couple’s Guide to Having the Conversations That Matter Most
We REALLY Need to Talk is more than just a communication book—it’s a roadmap to reconnecting hearts, rebuilding trust, and restoring intimacy through honest, God-centered conversation.
Written by Eric Kellum, ordained pastor, marriage coach, and author, this book was born out of his personal journey of growth and transformation in learning to communicate more effectively with his wife—and with others he loves. Nearly two decades ago, Eric and his wife came dangerously close to divorce, only to discover that poor communication wasn’t just about words—it was about unspoken wounds, unmet needs, and undealt-with pain.
This practical, biblically grounded guide helps couples:
Identify the root causes behind recurring arguments
Learn to listen to understand, not just to respond
Navigate sensitive topics like sex, forgiveness, money, and unmet expectations
Rebuild emotional and spiritual intimacy
Create healthy rhythms of communication that lead to long-term connection
To make these lessons come alive, most chapters begin with a fictional scenario featuring Sean and Liz, a couple whose relatable struggles offer a realistic glimpse into the communication theme of that chapter. These stories set the stage for deeper learning and reflection.
At the end of each chapter, you’ll find dedicated spaces to process, journal, and establish personal takeaways, helping you apply what you’ve learned to your own relationship.
Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or decades into your union, this book will give you the tools and language to talk through what really matters—so you can stop just surviving marriage and start winning in communication, connection, and commitment.
Author: Eric Kellum
Author’s Bio:
Eric Kellum is an ordained pastor, spoken word artist, author, and entrepreneur who inspires, engages and provokes (in a good way) through the power of transparency, truth and his intriguing way with words. Alongside his wife, Susan Kellum, he co-pastors Christ Culture Church, an intimate online family community where people of all ages can grow in faith together.
Together, Eric and Susan also lead Kellum Enterprises, a family-focused business that promotes faith and family through content, coaching, and creative storytelling. Through their publishing arm, Way With Words Publishing (W3 Publishing), they produce books and resources designed to help families grow and win—covering all topics pertaining to family, family values and helping families win.
Eric is personally passionate about helping men and young adults win in the areas of identity, purpose, marriage, and sexual integrity through virtual huddles and coaching sessions. He and Susan counsel married couples and lead workshops across the country designed to strengthen families and restore relationships.
Married for over 25 years, Eric and Susan are the proud parents of five —Eric II, Taylor, Lauryn, Symone, and Zoey—and together they embody their family motto: “Family REALLY Matters”
